Do you believe the conflict is inevitable in any relationship and if so, why?
When there is a conflict or you feel like conflict brewing do you move aggressively forward towards a
resolution or do you try to avoid it or ignore it in the hope that it will resolve itself?
Do you think you ever start a conflict just because you are feeling bored, want more excitement in your life or
it seems like a good way to have an intellectual or emotional engagement with another person?
Do you behave differently when you have a conflict in your professional life from when you have a conflict in your personal life? If so, how?
When you are in conflict with someone or with a group of people how easy or difficult is it for you to truly
understand their point of view? If you have trouble understanding it what steps you you take to try to grasp it?
When you feel you’re not being understood by the people with whom you are in conflict what steps do you
take to try to make your position clearer to them?
Are you ever in a situation where you agree to resolve a conflict along terms that don't really work for
you, just because you despair of ever getting those or you just want peace? When this happens how do you
live with the sense of injustice or dissatisfaction that is left over for you?
Were you aware of any conflicts between your parents? Were these ongoing and repetitive or did they get
resolved?
When your parents argued where you could hear them how did that make you feel?
Did either of them ask you to take sides?
Looking at the armed conflicts all around the world which are most disturbing to you?
How do you think they might be resolved?
Do you ever think there will be a time when armed conflict will vanish from the planet and if so what would enable that to happen?
There are also conflicts raging about climate change - fewer now about whether or not it is happening and
what the causes might be and more about what the solutions should be. Are there arguments about this going on in your community? How do you think people might be brought together to discuss them and find a way of moving forward?
Have you ever found yourself on one side of a conflict and then switching sides? If so what changed your mind? Were you able to bring others with you?
Do you have unresolved inner conflicts with which you struggle? How comfortable are you talking about these with friends and colleagues? When you do talk about them do you find their responses helpful?
If not why not?