When did you decide to get married and why?
Does your age have anything to do with your decision?
What else was going on in your life at that time in terms of work and friendships?
What do you consider a successful marriage?
What people do you know who are in successful marriages and to what do you attribute that success?
What was your parents’ marriage like?
How would you like yours to be similar?
And different?
What ideas did you have about marriage when you were growing up and
How have they changed if they have?
Are you in agreement with your partner about whether or not to have children, how many children to have and when and how they should be raised?
If not, what are your differing ideas about this subject and
How do you think they might be resolved?
What do you think is meant by the phrase, "the honeymoon is over?"
Do you think this is inevitable?
Have you explored how sexually compatible you and your partner are?
How important is this to both of you?
Are you most drawn to your partner by things that make them similar to you or
things that make them different? Can you describe these things?
Are you financially at the same level? If not, is the difference troubling to you?
If it is, what are you planning to do about it?
Do you and your partner have the same dietary habits? If not, is this a problem for you and
If it is, how are you planning to resolve this?
Do you and your partner have the same political opinions? If not, is this something you talk about?
How did those discussions go?
Do you believe that sacrifice is an inherent part of any relationship and especially of marriage? If so, what are you prepared to give up to maintain the relationship and
What are you expecting your partner to give up?
Do you think being married is essential to sustaining a long-term relationship? If so, why?